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By Steve Sharpton, Parsons Training Center, Tucson, Arizona
December 25, 2018
This past weekend I had the honor to be a part of my sister Christina’s wedding. During the quaint ceremony we got to see her take a new step into her life and start what should be an exhilarating journey. The one thing my family likes to point out is how their opposites kind of match up to each other. My sister tends to be hard of hearing and very direct while her husband Jeremy is blind and very loosey-goosey. While some might think this might be kind of strange, it seems to work pretty well for them and I can only hope for the best for them. Like with any wedding, you will see various couples in various stages of their lives reminisce about when they got married or how they got together. Usually they all offer some sort of advice but the best pieces always seem to work in stream of thought. Have something that unites you and make it work. I see that with my parents, who took a vow 45 years ago and have managed to stay together through thick and thin. A lot of things kept them together but the most common things seemed to be love, kids, my old man’s electrical business and now retirement. Each couple at the party had something that really kept them together. Jon and Christa had fitness but now it is a mix of fitness and their little cafe Dogs-N-Donuts. My sister Michelle and her husband Brandon have a special bond through music. In all things we have in this life, these little things will keep us together and make relationships last. Fitness is certainly another one of those little things that keeps the fire burning and the bonds tight.
Now, I have seen both sides of the aisle, where you had couples that didn’t work out together stay together, so for those people, I commend them. I would find it pretty hard to spend a lot of time in the gym by myself while my significant other just stays home or something watching Netflix. Then you have the mixed fitness couples. Like you have one member of the couple really into one type of fitness (i.e. weightlifting and power lifting) whole the other might be into something utterly different (swimming or running per se). How do they stay together? Certainly a question for another day. Either way, the quest for better health can be analyzed in either direction, that as long as the goal is getting into peak physical condition, it doesn’t really matter if you two have differing methods. It was like the time my father made the decision to switch from Christa as his trainer and over to Jon. The big reason why is my mother’s cardio was more advanced, and my father needed to get his elasticity and strength at a better level. So they still work out together these days, they just attack different needs with different trainers. Now that Christa is wooing Tucson with her doggie treats, my mom works out with another Parsons trainer named Bernard, who himself works out frequently with his girlfriend at the gym. So yes, plenty of good examples in my little world. Of course, people will ask why I don’t have a swolemate….well, that is a long story.
Anyway, why write about a saccharine subject anyway? Didn’t you just a few weeks ago say that having too much of a “buddy-buddy” relationship with your workout partners may lead to less gains at the gym? There is some truth to what I wrote a few weeks ago. Just like any good couple, falling into those cracks and getting a little lazy with the working out can happen, but just like any kind of survey or study that states one thing, there is always caveats to the rule.
Working out with a significant other poses a lot of advantages that can bolster the relationship in addition to potential goals. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/meet-catch-and-keep/201401/5-reasons-why-couples-who-sweat-together-stay-togetherFirst and foremost, having someone bring you weights or help unrack your weights is definitely a plus, especially when you are someone that has a lot of weights to work with. Having that extra help can actually make your workouts a little more efficient (unless you are those kinda jerks that don’t rack their weights). But the biggest thing that aids couples is the physical effect. As you two work out, you are releasing endorphins into your body and creating a more relaxed mindset. When you reach that certain apex of physical fitness, one reason why people become so adamant about maintaining is because of the good feeling they get from it. Now just just imagine if you are doing your workout with someone else. Ultimately it create a correlation between your love of working out and your love of your partner, so in a lot of ways, exercise is not only strengthening your bodies but also strengthening your bonds chemically. There is also some other psychological factors that can help with the relationship, for working out can also help the body mimic many of the same physical conditions that occur when you first meet someone. Accelerated heart rate, sweaty palms…etc. And let’s not forget the best part after the workout….getting some food together afterward. Just imagine how much fun setting up cheat meal will be! Either way, when you do this entire process as a couple, it allows for a lot of team work and can also lead to better workout goals for the couple as well.
While the emotional and the physical bonds will certainly keep you together as working out realigns a couple’s body chemistry, it also really helps with the practical side. Not to be sexist, but let’s face it, a single woman at the gym going into the weights section might as well have a gigantic target on her back at most gyms. Having your man with you will keep some of the douchebags away and allow you to hit some of those “swole” goals. Now of course, if you went to Parsons Training, that would not be a problem at all. And for the guys, well let’s face it….we all wanna show off to our ladies. As long as we don’t go too overboard (like trying to deadlift 100 pounds more than they should) having your significant other at the gym with you can help with some PR busting. Plus, if you both are trying something new, seeing someone else struggle with the same thing you are doing can aid in you sticking with something. Let’s face it, if you do that Spin class and perceive yourself to be terrible, you are more likely to never do it again because you feel like you are the worst in the class. Having someone to encourage you to keep going or possibly be just as bad will lead to couple things. 1) You will most likely keep doing it because you will know you are not the only one and thus will not feel self conscious and 2) the both of you can revel and create a new memory when you start off conversations with “remember how bad we used to be at TRX?”
Anyway, I hope this helps as you are your significant other start looking at gyms for the new year. As for me, I have find one for myself soon enough. I’m starting to get a little thicc and a diet is in order after this holiday season. Either way, have a good one.
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