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By Steve Sharpton, Parsons Training Center, Tucson, Arizona
April 30, 2019
Like last week, we are continuing a series motivational blog posts, and this week is going to be a good one. Philosophy is not really my thing, even though I watch a lot of Wisecrack on YouTube, but this does not make me an expert at anything. So just thought I would throw that out there first. However, I do have some real life equivalence to some of the ideas we will be talking about today, and boy some of this stuff is a doozy. So let us focus on the one thing that kills a lot of people before they ever even hit the gym….Pessimism.
The clinical and boring definition to the word is “a tendency to see the worst aspect of things or believe that the worst will happen; a lack of hope or confidence in the future.”Sounds about right. Either way, the very idea of pessimism is something that society is trying very hard to manage. I feel one reason why pessimism is on the rise in society is due to the rise of false confidence taking a steroid super boost in the last decade. You got a bunch of fake over the top people getting social media careers and money for being a flake that really has nothing to show for themselves. However, they can still go around claiming they are self made and deserve all of the accolades they desire. Take for example Kanye West, who has essentially planted the roots of a scientology-like super cult. https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2019/04/228821/kanye-west-sunday-service-religion-christian-churchSo basically he wants to start a church? Okay, make christianity cool even though he has shown more blasphemous regard for life than pious? This will be interesting to see how many dumb Hollywood types give this guy money. I guess what angers me is the lack of true accomplishment that brings this false bravado to light. Some in the sports world might call it the “Wide Receiver Syndrome,” where super talented receivers become a spectacle. Odell Beckham, Jr. and Antonio Brown are both cancerous divas, but people can’t stop talking about them and thus, a great deal of importance and confidence spews from their mouths. Remember, someone has to throw them the ball, so to demand so much credit is kinda ridiculous. Never mind the fact soft spoken receivers like Rod Smith, Julian Edelman, Marvin Harrison, Jerry Rice, Brandon Stokely, John Stallworth and a literal Hall of Fame worth of players have more individual titles than these guys have combined (which is zero). But….who do we talk about? So in my estimation, pessimism can be the optimal reaction to this cultural segue, for the loudness of your self promotion can cause others to feel lesser.
Now, why would you fall into that pit of despair? Well, the said loudmouth might look better than you, might be more stylish and certainly is more noticed than you. And since this happens with a lot of men due to toxic masculinity running rampant (and yes, it is is a real thing!), they will definitely pull in more women and thus establish themselves as the alpha sex god. Anyway, this is where the idea of pessimism can start to permeate your mind. The inner dialogues can come off a little like this. I can never be as popular as that person or be as cool looking or get as many chicks…so why should I bother?Then you go back to the pizza and watch some more comic book movies. I have fallen into this trap a lot of times, and truthfully I am still stuck. While I have managed to get the trap out of the ground and start moving again, having the lock-jaw on your foot is still gonna slow you down. To keep the metaphor going, rather than try to pry the trap off your foot and fix the damage, you let yourself bleed and you fix your own emotional problems with placebos and bandaids. This is how last week’s blog flows right into this week’s blog. You become comfortable with the situation because you have figured out ways to let it be a part of your life rather than finding some tools to get that damn trap off your foot.
The video I shared last week was a pretty long one, but it went on to present some good material which can fix some of this pessimism. The first idea is selecting the right ingredients for your success. So if you want to get stronger and healthier in your approach to your life, you are gonna have to make some changes. For me, I added a ton of good ingredients to my success. I work out consistently. I gave up sodas and energy drinks. I stopped eating four or five pizzas a week. And most importantly, I started doing something every day whether it be as simple as walking the dogs or taking a leisurely walk. The problem is, these are like oregano, garlic and cayenne to my fitness dish, for the vegan meat and potatoes is still rooted in bad habits. I eat too much. I had a bad job where I stress ate too much and wore me down mentally. I stopped running. I got jealous of other people. I hurt myself trying to battle some of my self worth issues. All of these bad ingredients are going to slow the process down, and since these are the main ingredients to my life right now, my thinking is leaning to the pessimistic side. It’s hard to break that cycle because it has been a part of my life for so long, but it is something I need to conquer. If I don’t, then the cycle I talked about last week will continue. If anything, some good things have happened this week, so it is not too bad. I ate some food that is better for me, I have not gone to town on a lot of junk food and I put in four workouts for the first time in a long time. I did some back squats and deadlifts and didn’t feel too much stress on my back. I also did some snatch work again. The next step will really result in me choosing something that makes me feel like getting up in the morning.
Battling pessimism is not just an external battle that you have to plan for…it is also a battle of the mind. Now some people might judge me for not trying my absolute hardest to lift maximum weights and bust all preconceived notions of male fitness for my age. However, I don’t want those things. While I enjoy heavy weights, I don’t want to have that type of life. I’m tired of being overweight and large. So why do I struggle? Well, some of the ingredients are bad first of all, and second of all my mind doesn’t always help me in the best way. I don’t like to think I am overly pessimistic, but there is a fear of joy in my life. One reason why I have issues with setting up vacations and letting loose….something always bad happens. In my case, it is extremely true, but we won’t get into that. So the next step for me and possible for yourself is figuring out a way to shut off that “Danger” switch and simply go for something. It is never easy when you have been burned in the past such as myself, but one has to keep going and learning from failures. I take a lot of issue from certain individuals that constantly say “I failed and got right back up.” Usually there is a lot of falsity due to the fact they most likely had a really good safety net. Will Smith has had a lot of horrible movies that damaged his reputation, but he still has a lot of money from the projects that made him money. The same goes for Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson. Or our current president—who definitely has Wide Receiver Syndrome—boast about always coming back from his failures only to find out he got some choice saves from his father and from some deregulated tax laws that allowed him to write off a billion dollars in losses in one year. In my opinion, you have to use your own grit and determination to make a comeback, not the words of a celebrity. Just saying.
Anyway, this is the conclusion for this blog and hopefully it has brought some new insight into your fitness life. We continue next week! Stay tuned!
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